ready, set, TOUCH
Not everyone has a natural instinct for sex. Some of us need to learn. When I first make sense of sex, my teacher was a book. I was only 8 years old, and could not have possibly understood the title of the book. I remembered having taken it from a rack in my cousin's room. I was an avid reader, and this to me was just one of the many books.
It was not until I have read halfway then I realised that it was book for adults. By then it was too late to undo the damages. I had ventured into the world of sex via the written words. I was intrigued and fascinated.
See, it was a book about a girl who grew up, having a prostitute for a mom. One scene which is etched in my mind was the scene where the little girl described how , she watched through the ajar door of her mom's bedroom, her mom's sexcapade.
As a child, I find the scene rather mysterious.
My next few encounters with sex were via writers like Danielle Steel and Sidney Sheldon, who give sex a hopelessly, romantic touch or a primal, whore-like touch to it.
How is this important in understanding what sex is about?
Our first encounter with sex will set the tone for our sex lives. Believing that sex is mysterious, makes me want to experiment and venture out. What better way than to be caressed. A physical human touch, when orchestrated in a most sensual way, can leave you hungry for more. That was what I first read about sex, hence, sex should start with a touch.
If you are a first timer to sex, or someone who is jaded from sex, start afresh. Touch. Playful touching such as a squeeze on the thigh, a trail from the ear to the neck, or even a gentle caress of your man's palm is bound to get him reacted. Sex is about inviting him in to want you.
The first cardinal rule of sex is NEVER RUSH.
Men are known to be a glutton when it comes to sex. They want it now and they want it all. Being a Delilah is not about giving him all – it's about giving it to him blow by blow (figuratively speaking!). It's about the art of persuading him to want you to touch him more.
A sure way to invite your man in (especially when he is busy doing something else, and his eyes are not on you e.g when driving) is to gently place your hand on his crotch, pat lightly and remove your hand. Do this for a few times, extending the time you place your hand. The idea behind this is to tease him, and at the same time, creating pleasurable warmth, enough to make him want to stop whatever he is doing. At the same time, carry on your conversation with him, or if you are not conversing, simply carry on with your task.
Remember, sex is a mystery. He will be confused and excited, that he is now waiting for your next cue.
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